Experts say
"Don’t let sparks fly if you are not at peace with the direction of this relationship"

When we met
It was easy for me to love you
I blessed the day I met you
It was a smooth ride
I didn’t play hard to get
There was no need to be coy about what we had
It was special

For a while
It was perfect
We bonded
We planned our lives
I never knew togetherness to be this sweet.

Then I learnt of the other woman
The one you acted like it was a fling
My instincts said different
The one you left due to a few reasons
The one you left to satisfy the desires of the masses
Your family and other forms of third party
Yet you are still attached to in ways I do not understand.

I tried
I tried to understand
That flushing out emotions takes time
Oh, but honey
You do not help matters either
I dare not go through your gadgets of communication
The last time I did I cried
I cried
And I consoled myself
I told myself
When he sees the extent of my love for him
With time, he will know that he’s not missing out
He will know that I am also a good package.

Hmmmn
As time went by
I realised
That your folks even pity me
They pity me becos they knew
I loved more than i was loved
They pity me because I was the perfect woman
Yet half loved.
They knew someone else played the strings of your heart
I was going to be the trophy wife
The good girl
Fresh slate
Faithful
The praying wife
The obedient one

These were the reasons you chose me
It was never out of love
You wanted to grow to love me
It works for some people
I’m not sure I will be lucky.

When ever you say
You don’t deserve me
I sometimes feel
You are feeling guilty for getting quite a catch
And yet not completely giving out love.
You must wonder how I know these things
You act right
You say the right things
Other women would have concluded that this is it
But I am different
I know
I always seem to know
It is my character flaw
And it’s about to get me heart broken before the official heartbreak.

So I came to the conclusion
That you like me
You care for me
I loved you first
You try to love me
You compare what we have with the other woman each day you wake up
And you say that the other woman will forever be your love.
You beg her
You tell her
You need her
Words like these
Turns sparks to flames
How can she move on
When you say these things to her
How will she make herself available to be loved by another when you tell her you want her as a public or secret lover

She is ready to be anything you want her to be
She is a willing mistress

You are confused
You want one of us to piss you off
Turn you off
So you can easily make a final choice
But now you are quick to realise
She would have been a good wife too
And I am simply
A replacement for her lapses

If I continue
Knowing all that I know
You will marry me
Your father approves of me
Your siblings approve of me
Even your friends
Close and distant
Approves of me
What can I say
I am loveble
But I will be marrying the masses
I won’t be marrying you
I don’t truly have you to myself.
Part of you wonder if you should listen to the way I have been accepted.
You wonder why they have rejected the other woman
Sometimes your sense of reasoning tells you this thing with the other woman is pure lust
A strong distraction
Sometimes, it tells you this is more than love
Sometimes You say,
If only I hadn’t slept with her
I may have loved this choice the way she’s loved by all.

It’s complicated now hun
You are an emotional mess

One time
I tried to leave you
So you can clear your head
Make a choice
I was ready to sacrifice my love for your happiness
I don’t know what happened
It seemed as though you suddenly realised that you couldn’t bear to loose me
You have refused my offer to let go
I didn’t leave
Don’t blame me
I am a strong woman
But when I love
I love strongly
And foolishly

My fellow women
This is my confession
I have no one to tell
I have no one to confide in
I don’t wish my enemies to be in this situation
I feel like the second wife
It sucks to be loved less
It sucks that my job is to be a good replacement
I feel like a disposable replacement
All I do now
is wait
Like a man charged of murder waiting to be beheaded
Only this time I am guilty of love
I don’t even know when this judgement will be carried out.
Receive strength Temilola
Receive strenth….