First of all I’m not proud of this. My late husband’s nephew Lucas is a sexual deviant who has been living with me since he was 12. My husband died in 1999 and I remained close to my sister-in-law, Lucas’s mother Sara. His father abandon them in 2004 and I believe he is still somewhere in Europe. Then in 2010 Sara died and that’s when I took Lucas in, he was 12 and now 22. He was devastated loosing his mom but gradually accepted it. I wasn’t upset the first few times but he became very immodest around me and would often be naked. I’m 52 today and have no excuse for the ways I have accepted and enabled his sexual behavior. I had caught or had seen him masturbating many times as a 12/13 year old. It got serious when other relatives and friends began seeing him naked and at times saw him masturbating which he was obviously doing intentionally. I started receiving calls from his school where he was exposing himself to female students and at 13 arrested twice for exposing himself at the recreation center and the park. I tried talking to him and punishing him by grounding him and twice I even spanked him. It got so bad most of my friends and relatives stopped coming to my house because of Lucas. By the time he was 15 I believe every female friend or relative including his cousins had seen him naked and many saw him masturbating or at least having an erection. He was banned from some stores at the mall and his reputation at school was terrible.

He was 15 the the day I finally sat him down and interrogated him for over two hours. He finally admitted everything to me and at one time was crying. I was baffled at the way he described his feelings and how he was affected by his nudity around females. He began saying he likes being naked all the time and that alone makes him get aroused. When girls see him naked he always gets what he referred to as a boner. He admitted that he had exposed himself to a lot of girls at school and anywhere else he could. When I asked him how many girls he did this to he said probably 100. He said he can’t help it and that he jerks off at least once to three times everyday.He admitted also he masturbates in school and other places including the recreation center, the park, the mall and sometimes at the movies. He said that he seldom wears underwear and that there are three girls that allow him to expose himself to them. He said they watch him masturbate and once or twice a week he goes to the one girls house where he undresses for them. He said they all like seeing him naked and want to watch him masturbate. I actually realized how bad Lucas was with his sexual desires. I wasn’t sure how to react when he finally asked me not to be mad at him when he was naked at home. I told him that day I wouldn’t holler at him anymore which in hindsight now was a mistake. Since then he is naked at home most of the time but I did forbid his nudity when we have a meal. Rarely a day goes by that I don’t see Lucas naked and he will be 23 in October. He has no inhibitions of even me seeing him nude and has no concern about me seeing him with an erection. I never see him masturbate anymore but know he still does regularly.

For years now he has girls come over and they go down to the basement rec. room where I know Lucas is naked in front of them. There have been 6 or 7 different girls over the years but now the two who come here on weekends must be willing to watch him masturbate. I never go down there when he has company but if he comes up for refreshments he is always naked. The one girl Rachael I am certain he has sex with and can hear them at times. Back when he was 16 and 17 I had him going to a therapist twice a month but it never changed him. I have enabled him to continue this because I simply don’t know what else I could do. At least he isn’t getting into trouble outside and as far as I know he doesn’t expose himself outside like he did before. Well at least he doesn’t admit it and yet I always fear he will get in trouble with the police some day. I suppose what he has is a deep routed fetish about nudity and obviously an exhibitionist. He is a very good looking young man yet he has this terrible outlook about his sexual behavior. I still talk to him about it occasionally. A couple weeks ago at dinner I asked him why he has erections in front of me sometimes. After all, I see him naked almost every day for the last 10 plus years. He said its that I can see his genitals and that it just happens with out him thinking about it. Over those years my best friend Ruthie has seen him naked so many many times I can’t begin to know how much. She is my only friend who is still willing to come here when Lucas is home. Other friends and relatives only come when they know he is at work. I have been dating a man named Jake now for 4 years but go to his apartment all the time. He knows all about Lucas and don’t like him a little bit after seeing him naked a couple times. I guess I’m wrong for putting up with Lucas but I tolerate him. Lately he has been talking about getting his own apartment and I encourage him to do so more and more.